What’s the most important thing in a relationship? Most people will answer ‘Love’. Don’t get me wrong, love is important, but I honestly don’t believe that it’s enough.
That ‘in love’-feeling, science has agreed, lasts for about two years. This is an average number, so give or take a few months. After that phase, love becomes a choice.
You know when you first get to know someone and everything’s all fun and exciting and you can’t wait to see where it leads? Or you know when you’ve been friends with somebody for the longest time, but suddenly you start to wonder if there could be more to it? Here’s how you can tell if it has potential. I give you: the Tingles Theory ™.
Well, this was a topic that had to be discussed at some point. Cheating, unfortunately, happens to a lot of us, whether you’re the cheater or the cheatee. The topic has been explored at length, with people trying to analyze the reasons someone could have for cheating, who’s to blame, the effects it has on the person who was cheated on, etc. etc.
I’m here to break it down to a few very simple principles, that are, in my eyes, always valid. Read on and you’ll see what I mean.
I’m in the middle of a family visit abroad and, while I love my family, sometimes it’s difficult to stay friendly when they ask you about your (lack of a) love life for the gazillionth time.
A funny thing happens when you’re in your 20s and you unexpectedly become single. As soon as they sense a window of opportunity, the oddest characters come crawling out of the woodworks. Sharks, I like to call them (actually, there’s another word for it but I’m trying to keep this accessible to everybody).
You know how so many comedians crack jokes about women not liking each other? They say there’s truth to every good joke. I spent a long time thinking about this. Years, even. Solidarity among women a strange, rare, elusive phenomenon.
“Begin with the end in mind.” One of the top philosophies at work. And I like to apply it to all other aspects of my life as well. I try to ask myself at every turn: “what’s your endgame?” And for good reason.
A friend of mine met a guy. They hung out, had a great time. One day over tea, she turns to me and says: “You know, he’s young. Younger than I am.” My initial response was “So?”. But then I started to think: I don’t really know that many couples in which the guy is younger, especially not in our particular age demographic (late 20s, early 30s). What gives?
Have you ever been called “intimidating”? I have. First I thought it was funny. Then I started to think about it, I didn’t like it. And the more I think about it, the more it bothers me that this as seen as a flaw in women.
Russell Wilson recently stated: “If you’re dating a woman that’s way out of your league, ask her to marry you.” This got me thinking. I’ve always said that there’s no such thing as leagues, but there definitely are barriers to dating. They might just be standards. And there’s a difference.