OK, let’s put this out there once and for all. Being subtle is great for R&B songs, not for dating. This is why I advocate “say what you mean and mean what you say”. Here’s how.
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The Definitive Answer to “Is this a date?”
Our guest blogger Lola is back and she’s here to call everybody out on their dating bullshit.
I am a dirty-thirty-year-old and I am surrounded by people who either date, don’t date anymore, don’t know if they’re dating, deny that they’re dating or hate dating (yes, you know who you are, haters). So, I find myself wondering when did such a simple and fun thing turn into something complicated and vague?
Playing “hard to get” is stupid
Ladies, show of hands: how many of you have been told that you should play hard to get to get a guy to want you? Thought so. So apart from the obviously glaring wrong premise that it’s supposed to be our job to vie for a guy’s time and attention, there’s another huuuuuge flaw with this logic and I’m going to break it down for you.
“Nobody ever got laid over WhatsApp.”
Surprise! This week we’re kicking off a new feature on the website: guest blogs! Our very first blogpost is by the author known only as TDR, and he’s here to share some valuable advice when it comes to dating and WhatsApp. Enjoy!
Everyone’s Got Baggage, Dude
Y’know, people like to kinda shit on millennials and their dating habits. They tell us we’re spoiled, we’re looking for instant gratification, are unwilling to work for something etc. Is there any truth to that? Possibly. But I think there’s something else that runs a little deeper.
Poll: when is it a date?
I’m in the middle of a discussion with my band of troublemakers, so I need you to help me settle this. Help us out here.
Young Love
A friend of mine met a guy. They hung out, had a great time. One day over tea, she turns to me and says: “You know, he’s young. Younger than I am.” My initial response was “So?”. But then I started to think: I don’t really know that many couples in which the guy is younger, especially not in our particular age demographic (late 20s, early 30s). What gives?
The Dangers of Dormant Racism
Now this one is a topic that always offends some people. Dating preferences. You can have a preference for somebody that likes Star Wars. Or somebody who enjoys Eddie Murphy movies. You cannot have a “preference” for a specific race.
I hesitated posting this article for a very long time, but truth is: it bothers me. There’s a number of reasons why.
Bullshit Dealbreakers?
Remember how, as a teenager, you made this whole list in your head of what you wanted your future S.O. (significant other) to be? He had to be this tall, wear these kinds of jeans, this eye color, hair color, play this sport… And then you entered adulthood.