Some people have asked for a little bit of a deep dive into The Tingles Theory that you were introduced to a while ago. Firstly, glad to see it has struck a nerve with some of you. Since the first post was mainly about when you’re just starting out with someone, let’s explore what happens to your tingles after those first couple of months.
The Situationship Chronicles
The Situationship Chronicles is a weekly column about everything to do with relationships and situationships, romantic or otherwise. The stories are always based on our own lives, or of those 1 degree of separation away. Why? We want to verify. We’ll always ask around to try to get as complete a story as possible. But in the end we’re still gonna express our own views on it anyway. Do you have any suggestions on what you’d like to see featured on The Situationship Chronicles? Don’t be shy, tell us!
No Heartbreak Like Breaking Up With Your Bestie
Relationships end. That’s just the way things are. They work out until they don’t. For friendships, however, the case is very much different.
Overanalyzing Will Kill It Dead
You know that initial excitement when you meet somebody new, hit it off and start thinking if y’all could work out? And you know that anxious feeling you get after a little while, once you start overanalyzing every text (or lack thereof), gesture, facial expression? I’m probably one of the biggest culprits of overanalyzing, but I’m here to share some things that I think may help you tone it down.
Tired Old Stereotypes
In light of yesterday’s International Women’s Day and all the cheesy “jokes” and “compliments” we had to endure because of it, allow me to explain to all of you jokesters and well-meaning, yet oblivious folks out there how and why there are more ways than one to be a woman.
You Ain’t Special
This is the single most important piece of relationship advice you’ll ever get. Ready? Here it comes: you ain’t special.
Forgiveness is a Funny Thing
Forgiveness is supposed to be a virtue. One of the best things you can do. I do believe it is, but not because it makes you such a nice, warm, kind-hearted person. No, no, no. Forgiveness is a good thing because it’s in your own best interest. Allow me to explain.
Valentine’s Day: Final Words
Now that the whole mess that is Valentine’s Day is behind us, let’s evaluate. We’ve all read the articles and had the discussions: Valentine’s Day is holiday created by Hallmark and other corporations to guilt-trip people into spending money to prove they love someone. Or on the other end you have the ones who argue that it’s a cute holiday and get dressed up in red and pink and cover everything in hearts.
So here are my guidelines to celebrating / not-celebrating the “holiday”.
The Covert Red Flag: Insecurity
We all have our insecurities and our SOs gotta find a way to work with that. But being a little insecure about how you look in a neon-pink bathing suit is a whole other ballgame than deep-rooted insecurities about your own person. And it’s that last kind of insecurities I wanna talk about. This article isn’t going to discuss how you can deal with a SO with these issues. Instead, it’s going to give you some tough love and advice you probably won’t wanna hear.
Parents Just Don’t Understand
Deep down (generally speaking) we all want approval from our parents. No matter how old we get, they’ll still be our parents and we want them to be proud of their kid. But for some of us, especially those who feel they’re stuck between cultures, finding a balance between what we want and meeting our parents’ expectations of us can cause serious problems.
What to do when someone’s spreading lies about you
So this is something that has been bothering me for a while, and is something most women deal with at some point in time. I’m sure some men do too, but you know, frame of reference and all.