Time for a little rant. We all know some people display toxic or harmful behavior. That’s nothing new. Then there are those who not only portray this behavior, but actively glorify it. Not just people, mind you. We see it everywhere. How you’re supposed to ‘sacrifice’ your private life and happiness for a career. How you’re supposed to go through being treated like dirt by the person you’re with because you want to be a ride or die. And you know what? I’m seven shades of done with it all.
The Situationship Chronicles
The Situationship Chronicles is a weekly column about everything to do with relationships and situationships, romantic or otherwise. The stories are always based on our own lives, or of those 1 degree of separation away. Why? We want to verify. We’ll always ask around to try to get as complete a story as possible. But in the end we’re still gonna express our own views on it anyway. Do you have any suggestions on what you’d like to see featured on The Situationship Chronicles? Don’t be shy, tell us!
Love is a Myth
Yeah, I said it. Love is a myth. Quite a bold statement, huh? But let me explain. It’s not so much that love doesn’t exist. It does. It’s just that a lot of people seem to have a really odd non-realistic idea of what love is, means and requires.
Girlfriend Duty
Ever been on girlfriend duty? For a guy you’re not even dating? What does that even mean? Glad you asked.
Why you should say “I love you” first
Remember that whole discussion we had on what saying “I love you” really means? Well, I had a very interesting followup discussion to it.
Traditionally, we’re expected to believe that the first person to say it is always at a disadvantage, since they’re the first to show their vulnerability and can get hurt and whatever. What if I told you that the person who says it first actually becomes the one with the upperhand?
In-laws and how to deal with them
Let me paint you a picture. You’re on the couch with New Boo. You get to talking about parents and how you’ve always handled in-laws. A question pops into your head. Before you know it, you say it out loud. “What if your mom doesn’t like me?” He gives you a puzzled look and responds “Is she the one dating you?”
He makes a good point.
Why Won’t You Apologize?
It can be very difficult to apologize. Especially if you feel you’ve done nothing wrong. Sometimes especially because you know what you did wrong.
My Makeup =/= Your Business
Time for another ranting blogpost. The age-old debate: what’s the deal with makeup?
Compromise =/= settling
Some time ago we got into the discussion of how to know when you’re settling for or settling with something/someone. Now, some of you are in complete denial about every important aspect in your lives and use this as an excuse to never ever compromise on anything. I’m here to explain to you why compromise is not the same thing as settling.
Ready to move on yet?
One of the questions that often come up is how long should you be single between relationships for it to be healthy? There are some rules of thumb. Which are usually stupid.
The Case for Divorce
Getting into this age bracket we’re in means seeing a bunch of people around you get married. It also means hearing another bunch of people talk about divorce statistics. Usually followed by a comment on how “people these days” don’t value marriage the way they used to.