Love’s a beautiful thing. Until it’s not anymore. Like when it transforms into codependency. Some of you will ask: “What does that mean and how will I recognize it?” Others will ask: “What’s the difference?” That’s very cynical of you. For the first group: read on.
The Situationship Chronicles
The Situationship Chronicles is a weekly column about everything to do with relationships and situationships, romantic or otherwise. The stories are always based on our own lives, or of those 1 degree of separation away. Why? We want to verify. We’ll always ask around to try to get as complete a story as possible. But in the end we’re still gonna express our own views on it anyway. Do you have any suggestions on what you’d like to see featured on The Situationship Chronicles? Don’t be shy, tell us!
Divorcing the Family
Breakups are never fun for anyone involved. But they get even worse when you’re very close with your now-ex partner’s family.
Doing the Long Distance Thing
People say absence makes the heart grow fonder. They also say out of sight, out of mind. In short: people don’t know what they want. So let’s explore which one of these sayings rings more true and look at the up- and downsides of doing the whole long distance relationship thing.
Settling For vs. Settling With
A friend of mine, who’s usually very private about her relationship, recently divulged some information on the dynamics between her and her SO. And while it’s her choice, I feel like she could do better. She’s settling for this guy. This got me thinking about how often people settle for whatever situation they’re in, instead of settling with something or someone that’s much better for them.
The Art of Perspective
Everybody’s got baggage. Everyone. And everybody deals with it in their own way. In the love and relationships department (both romantic and family) I’ve been through some drama the past couple of years. I’ll spare you all the details, although you can find quite a bit on it in previous blogposts. Now two things can happen after something like that: you become cynical, bitter, and/or closed off to people, or you can put pain in perspective.
Poll: when is it a date?
I’m in the middle of a discussion with my band of troublemakers, so I need you to help me settle this. Help us out here.
A Beginner’s Guide to Intercultural Dating
For those of you that don’t know me: I’m of mixed heritage, and I’ve lived my life in the rainy plains of the Netherlands. Lucky for me, I live in one of the bigger cities where we have about 175 different nationalities (according to the latest census). Living like this you’re bound to develop an interest for someone with a different cultural background sooner or later, right? And just like that, you’re in an intercultural relationship. Here are some things I picked up on, either personally or from friends and their situations.
Is timing really a thing?
I’ve never been very patient. And I’ve always gotten away with it, too. That’s why I’ve always said not to believe in timing; you either choose something or you don’t. But is it really that black and white?
Mixing work and play?
I’ve avoided this topic for a while. Partly because I know a handful of my coworkers read this blog (heeeeey guys!) and I don’t need rumors flying around the office. But oh well, people keep asking for an exploration of this topic, and who am I to refuse to give the people what they want?
Dating people you work with. Good idea or nah?
The Recipe for Love?
What’s the most important thing in a relationship? Most people will answer ‘Love’. Don’t get me wrong, love is important, but I honestly don’t believe that it’s enough.
That ‘in love’-feeling, science has agreed, lasts for about two years. This is an average number, so give or take a few months. After that phase, love becomes a choice.