Surprise! This week we’re kicking off a new feature on the website: guest blogs! Our very first blogpost is by the author known only as TDR, and he’s here to share some valuable advice when it comes to dating and WhatsApp. Enjoy!
Nobody ever got laid over WhatsApp. Yet nowadays it seems (mostly) guys are hell bent on texting their newly met prospect right out of dating them.
2 years ago I first noticed this trend. The culprit? Me and only me. It was actually on the 2nd Christmas evening (we have that here) I went to a bar with my 2 cousins. There was this amazing curly blond girl with green eyes, rocking a blue dress.
So I went over and we talked. There was a really good vibe between us, so I took her number. Over the next two weeks I started to text her about all kinds of stuff but I never asked her out. Needles to say she quickly got bored and stopped replying.
We can argue that maybe my text game wasn’t tight and that’s why she got bored. But I believe the problem lies with the texting in and of itself. It seems like we think a phone call / WhatsApp message is a substitute for a good old fashioned face to face interaction. I’ll leave the details up to you.
Now, I believe that this is a big mistake because it robs you of the visual cues of the effect you are having on the other person. His or her body language. Even more importantly: it is impossible for you or your “date” to connect through touch. It is as I mentioned before: nobody ever got laid over WhatsApp.
Excessive texting in the beginning removes any mystery. Your date doesn’t get the chance to wonder about you. It takes away the opportunity for your date to chase you. There is no need to chase something that is already there.
So how do you use text in the dating phase? I recommend you use that phone number. Preferably to call and set up a definitive date. Make sure date, time and place are set and the lady just has to show up. That’s where the real magic happens. If you must use text, keep it to a minimum.
– TDR
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