Ladies, show of hands: how many of you have been told that you should play hard to get to get a guy to want you? Thought so. So apart from the obviously glaring wrong premise that it’s supposed to be our job to vie for a guy’s time and attention, there’s another huuuuuge flaw with this logic and I’m going to break it down for you.
The Situationship Chronicles
There’s a right way to have an argument
There are things that make my blood boil. Then there are things that seemingly don’t mess with me very much at all. And I display all of these differently. Purposely so. There are a couple of things that I have picked up throughout the years that kinda help when you’re in argument.
The Perfect Moment to Admit How You Feel
Coming clean about how you feel about somebody is scary. Terrifying. Because what if they don’t feel the same way? Worse, what if they laugh? (I don’t think I know anybody who would laugh over it, but fears aren’t rational so we’re still scared of it). Also, admitting it is kind of equal to giving away whatever power and control you have over the situation, isn’t it?
Little Lies We Tell the Guys in Our Lives
Let me, for the first time, start off with a warning. If you’re reading this at work, stop. Bookmark it. Read it on the train when you’re heading home. We’re about to get into some of the NSFW little lies and half-truths we tell the guys in our lives. And our beds.
One-sided Relationships
Ever been in a one-sided relationship? You probably have.
One-sided relationships come in a lot of shapes and forms. It can be a romantic relationship, a family member, a friendship. They all kinda have the same things in common though.
Practical Things You Should Do Now That You’re Grown
Life lessons are cool. They’re very important, and good to keep in the back of your mind (or up on your fridge). But sometimes you need some really practical tips. Don’t worry. We’re here to help you adult.
What We Say vs. What We Mean
As some of us tend to live our lives in full denial of a lot of things, I decided to break down what some very common phrases mean, so you can stop reading into someone’s behavior and just stick to the facts.
Breaking All the Rules
For the past year and change I’ve been telling you guys about the chronicles of my and my friends’ dating lives (all with their permission) in hopes of relaying some lessons, rules and guidelines. After all, life’s too short to make all the mistakes yourself. Learn from those that other people make. And then sometimes… all those lessons, rules and guidelines need to go out the window.
The Necessity of Titles
“It’s 2017 and we shouldn’t put labels on things anymore, it boxes people in.” True. Except when it comes to titles. It’s a subtle difference, but labels and titles often serve a much larger purpose.
Denial is comfortable
I recently read an article that promised to explain how to recognize if someone is flirting with you, and they had the science to back it up. By flirting, they meant mostly body language and forwardness of what was being said. By science, they mean panels and observation.