Unpopular opinion time: there is absolutely no such thing as “the one”. The idea that you have to find *one* person in a world of about 7 billion people seems kinda ridiculous and discouraging, no?
The Situationship Chronicles
Are you really the victim, though?
I see it around me all the time. People are so used to being the victim, they don’t want to get out of that role. They don’t want things to get better. They say they do, but they don’t. Here’s what I mean and where that comes from.
Best Friend Dilemma
She’s happy, but not *happy*. We all see how she is around her alleged best friend. She never seems more like herself, more confident, more loved, more beautiful than when she’s around him. If only he could get his shit together. If only they had similar aspirations in life in terms of career, family, you know, the essentials. They could be the ultimate #goals. The couple we all aspire to be.
Maybe you SHOULD go and love yourself
I really think the narrative that nobody can love you until you love yourself is harmful. Here’s why.
Having trouble loving yourself or seeing value in yourself is usually rooted in deep, deep self-esteem issues. Like, DEEP. And to have somebody tell you that it’s exactly that what makes you unlovable or incapable of love seems kinda… I dunno… counterproductive? Apart from that, people are perfectly capable of loving you. It just doesn’t always mean what you want it to mean.
Step into 2018 like…
The last couple of months have been…eventful. I don’t know about you guys, but I got some things to sort out, and since the new year is coming up, what better time to start than right now? Here are all the things we’re leaving in 2017 so we can step into 2018 carefree and fabulous.
Instant Gratification: Online Dating
Since we live in an age of instant gratification, I was subtly convinced by my partner in crime Lola to get with the program and (re)download a dating app. Here’s what happened.
How soon is too soon?
I promised you guys I’d do the research for you on how soon is too soon to hop into bed with someone. Generally speaking, there’s two schools of thought on the subject.
Mr. Right vs Mr. Right Now
Hang on to your hats, kids. We’re going into a topic that might be uncomfortable for some of you. You see, some of us choose to spend our time with Mr. Right Now rather than Mr. Right (or Ms of course. Whatever floats your boat). Sometimes that’s OK. And sometimes it’s not.
‘Love’ is a Verb
One of my good friends is in a new-ish relationship. It’s adorable. They’re adorable. And now, of course, she’s being bombarded with the question all women who have been in a relationship for a few months get: “has he said IT yet?”
About #MeToo: my $0.02
I didn’t want to write about this initially. Why? Because the time has finally come for women to feel encouraged and share their stories and experiences dealing with sexual offence, intimidation, violence. And I don’t wanna take up any of that space with whatever I have to say on the subject. But a lot of men in my vicinity were shocked by the sheer number of women tweeting and otherwise spreading #MeToo all over social media. Since women know all about this sad reality, I’m aiming this particular blogpost at my male readers. Is this going to make you uncomfortable? Probably. But you know what? Deal with it.