We once discussed how “I love you” can take several forms, often not even including those actual words. Here it is if you wanna reread it. So while that particular post was more about how you can tell whether or not somebody loves you, this one’s going to tackle the other side of it: how not to lose that fuzzy feeling we call love.
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Why you should say “I love you” first
Remember that whole discussion we had on what saying “I love you” really means? Well, I had a very interesting followup discussion to it.
Traditionally, we’re expected to believe that the first person to say it is always at a disadvantage, since they’re the first to show their vulnerability and can get hurt and whatever. What if I told you that the person who says it first actually becomes the one with the upperhand?
‘Love’ is a Verb
One of my good friends is in a new-ish relationship. It’s adorable. They’re adorable. And now, of course, she’s being bombarded with the question all women who have been in a relationship for a few months get: “has he said IT yet?”
Trust No One: Keep it to ya damn self
There’s an old piece of advice that I come across every now and then. The phrasing sometimes differs, but it comes down to this: never let anyone know about your love life, your income or your next move. I’ve never been a very secretive person, but I have gotten more careful about who I tell … Read more
Love Ain’t Everything
Recently a friend of mine called me up and told me she had a problem. A big one. One of her oldest best guyfriends had admitted to having feelings for her. Girl was shook. Not because she didn’t see it coming, but because she didn’t know what to do about it. You see, there’s definitely love between the two of them. But love isn’t enough to build a longterm relationship. Contrary to popular belief, love does not, in fact, conquer all.
The Recipe for Love?
What’s the most important thing in a relationship? Most people will answer ‘Love’. Don’t get me wrong, love is important, but I honestly don’t believe that it’s enough.
That ‘in love’-feeling, science has agreed, lasts for about two years. This is an average number, so give or take a few months. After that phase, love becomes a choice.
No Romance Without Finance
No truer words were ever spoken. Is money the most important thing in the world? No. But it does make that same world go round.
My mom shared quite a few valuable lessons with me. One of those lessons was: don’t ever become financially dependent on a man.
Post-cuffing season: the breakup package
Cuffing season is officially over, and you know what that means… You’re about to see some breakups. We want you to be fully prepared just in case you get that dreaded phone call from your friend, boohoo-ing about her breakup. So here are a couple of items you should pack up when you head over to your bestie’s house: