So let’s talk a little bit about jealousy, shall we?
The Situationship Chronicles
The Situationship Chronicles is a weekly column about everything to do with relationships and situationships, romantic or otherwise. The stories are always based on our own lives, or of those 1 degree of separation away. Why? We want to verify. We’ll always ask around to try to get as complete a story as possible. But in the end we’re still gonna express our own views on it anyway. Do you have any suggestions on what you’d like to see featured on The Situationship Chronicles? Don’t be shy, tell us!
No such thing as the one
Unpopular opinion time: there is absolutely no such thing as “the one”. The idea that you have to find *one* person in a world of about 7 billion people seems kinda ridiculous and discouraging, no?
Are you really the victim, though?
I see it around me all the time. People are so used to being the victim, they don’t want to get out of that role. They don’t want things to get better. They say they do, but they don’t. Here’s what I mean and where that comes from.
Where “my type” becomes “stereotype”
Most people have a “type”. There’s your tall, dark and handsome. There’s your moody, brooding and mysterious. Then there’s your gray area. Because where does a “type” go into a stereotype? Where does it stop being a preference and start being an interest fueled by some kind of intrigue about somebody’s cultural or ethnic background?
Best Friend Dilemma
She’s happy, but not *happy*. We all see how she is around her alleged best friend. She never seems more like herself, more confident, more loved, more beautiful than when she’s around him. If only he could get his shit together. If only they had similar aspirations in life in terms of career, family, you know, the essentials. They could be the ultimate #goals. The couple we all aspire to be.
The Thirst Trap: a Guide
A friend of mine recently received a picture from a guy “friend”. “Friend” was damn near nekkid in a hot tub. She screenshotted it, sent it to me and exclaimed “What the FUCK is this?”
That, my friend, is a thirst trap.
Maybe you SHOULD go and love yourself
I really think the narrative that nobody can love you until you love yourself is harmful. Here’s why.
Having trouble loving yourself or seeing value in yourself is usually rooted in deep, deep self-esteem issues. Like, DEEP. And to have somebody tell you that it’s exactly that what makes you unlovable or incapable of love seems kinda… I dunno… counterproductive? Apart from that, people are perfectly capable of loving you. It just doesn’t always mean what you want it to mean.
Cheating: the Aftermath
So you guys know I’ve been cheated on in a past relationship. I never made a secret out of it because it’s not something to be ashamed of. He’s the one that fucked up. Buuuuuuut it did leave some scars. And that’s an understatement. I didn’t even realize how deeply this shit had damaged me until I started dating again. So here it is: the aftermath of being cheated on.
Step into 2018 like…
The last couple of months have been…eventful. I don’t know about you guys, but I got some things to sort out, and since the new year is coming up, what better time to start than right now? Here are all the things we’re leaving in 2017 so we can step into 2018 carefree and fabulous.
Instant Gratification: Online Dating
Since we live in an age of instant gratification, I was subtly convinced by my partner in crime Lola to get with the program and (re)download a dating app. Here’s what happened.