Surprise! We have another guest blog for you: a guest blog a brand new contributor who goes by the name of Lola! Remember last week’s guest blog? Lola wanted to share a woman’s perspective on going where your friend has gone before. Enjoy!
So a while ago y’all could read about a guy’s view about “sloppy seconds” and sharing between friends. Now I’m sure we were all very intrigued, but how bout a gal’s view on this?
Well let me be honest, obviously, I prefer my dates to be fresh as a daisy (how corny is that expression right?). I mean, I can act all diva and cocky enough not to want a used rag. On the other hand, what if I really like the guy? Cuz, let’s face it, women are only human too. We can (and should!) act just as foolish and idiotic as men do when it comes to liking (or wanting) someone. This is 2017, we don’t need to suppress any of our feelings or desires anymore.
So I’m the kind of person who knows what I like, and if I like a guy, do I really care who he’s been with? No, I really don’t give a crap. I don’t care about former lovers, mistresses, girlfriends, wives or anything in between (side-note: If there were guys involved, I really do want to know tho). The most important thing is that those exes are gone and I’m in, and that’s all that matters. That hasn’t always been the case with me.
A couple of years ago, like ages ago, I met this incredible, handsome guy. We hit it off from the very moment our eyes crossed paths and while I was selling him useless stuff, he lured me into a date. I was so excited, I couldn’t wait to tell my crazy ass friend Pecas (yes that’s her nickname, given by yours truly). The more I told her, the more she recognized the guy. We found out she dated him before and broke it off before it turned into something real. I was so disappointed, I wanted to call off the date. Of course, she didn’t want that silly detail to prevent me from having a good time with a cutie.
We had a heart to heart conversation and that changed my views on ‘old worn leather bags’ completely. Just because Pecas rejected him, doesn’t mean I should. And just because they didn’t have fun (anymore), didn’t mean we couldn’t start having fun. Not going on that date (or getting involved in any kind of way) with someone who used to be with a friend, is just denying yourself a potential great opportunity. And there’s nothing worse than missing an opportunity that can change your life.
So go for it, have your heart to heart with your friend, make sure it’s really over and go have fun and get some.
xoxo, Lola
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