Surprise! We have another surprise for you: a guest blog by our very first contributor, TDR! He’s sharing his perspective on going where your friend has gone before. Enjoy!
A female friend of mine asked me recently if I would have sex with a girl after my bro went there. I laughed at this question. I laughed because the simple answer is: it depends.
As a man of principle (at least I try to be), I place great value in my own personal code of conduct. I also appreciate this in other men (or women). It shows character, a quality that seems to be more and more overlooked.
So in the case that a friend of mine just broke up, his or her ex is off limits. At least for a while. They need time to work things out, rebound etc. And if the feelings between me and the ex develop I will talk it over with my friend, giving him a heads-up. This is my code, but if you are not a ‘friend’ but a mere acquaintance, well, then it’s a different game.
It gets better. If my bro (friend or acquaintance) had just seen a girl for just sex then the rule above doesn’t even apply. She is just a girl meeting an available guy for a good time. The fact that this scenario happened before starring said bro in the lead role doesn’t matter one bit.
I’ve heard people talk about this topic with disgust. Like its nasty to be with a girl that has been with your bro. I don’t get this at all. You have had your partners, she has had hers. The only thing is: you know your bro. But OK to each his or her own. Personally, I don’t find this argument to bear any relevance.
So to me it depends on my personal code and the current situation. However I will never let petty disgust come between myself and a possibly great experience.
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